It’s easy for anyone to relate to the emotions of fear, anger, shame, confusion and dejection. Every job seeker including me has felt these emotions in isolation or in a combination of more than one at different stages of the hiring process when faced with a rejection. Whether the rejection we experience is large or small, one thing remains constant – it always hurts and usually hurts more than we expect it to.
Rejection makes us feel sad and disappointed but there’s a unique ‘coping mechanism’ in us human beings! Every time we fail or when we are rejected or when we lose, we tend to rerun the whole situation in our heads again and again with a different result. With a result of being the WINNER every time.
Be conscious and be aware of your feelings when you’re getting rejected and how are you turning yourself into a winner while you are running and rerunning that situation in your head. Soon you will realise, rejection is your friend. It’s not something you should fear.
No, I am not suggesting you should go searching for rejection but if it happens, which it will; embrace it and be open to learning from it, like you would treat your friend.
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